#29 What Men Really Don't Want

    The Commonplace article that I chose to write about is called “What a Guy Wants” by Erik Vossler.   The title immediately caught my eye while I was looking through articles.   This is just one man’s opinion and every man looks for different characteristics in women.   However, even though I don’t agree with everything Erik says in the article, I thought it was an excellent piece.
    Just like the title indicates, the article is about what guys want, and even more importantly, what we don’t.   I have to agree with Erik that the biggest misconception in today’s society is that men find ridiculously skinny women extremely attractive.   Don’t get me wrong, being naturally skinny or being in shape is attractive.   What isn’t attractive is being so skinny that it becomes unhealthy.   The fashion industry has been using models that are skin and bones for years.   This still astounds me that the fashion industry uses women like this to model their clothes instead of healthy looking women who would probably look better in them.   Never have I heard a man say “WOW! Being able to see her ribs is so hott!”   Using healthy models would be a win for everyone: designer’s clothes would look better, women would change their views of an ideal image, and guys would not have to look at skeletons in ads anymore.   Being able to count a woman’s ribs is a turn off, not a turn on.
    The author makes some good points about what most men look for in a woman.   If I could generalize for most men I would say that we look for attractive, healthy, intelligent women who share at least some of our interests.   Erik goes on to say, “Believe it or not, most men would like to date an intelligent girl who can converse and laugh aside from simply batting her eyelashes and looking cute,” further proving our points.
    One thing I would have to disagree with in the article is that Erik uses Kate Moss and Adriana Lima as examples of “stick-like” models.   Kate Moss is very skinny, but I don’t think she is the best example of a model that is too skinny.   Also, saying that Adriana Lima is too skinny to be attractive is insane!   She is not a stick-like model, and is one of the hottest women on the planet!